Our Baby Plan
Once we married, we wanted to enjoy "our" time first and decided to delay our baby plan.
We married in May 2013 in which we might have "snake" baby if we never delay and it will clash with my hubby. Hence we decided to delay to wait for next Chinese horoscope "horse" in 2014. However we can make plan, but LORD's purpose will prevail. I was not pregnant and never get "Horse" baby.
The next Chinese horoscope is "Goat" which my mum kept reminding me not to have one as it will clash with me. Hence we delay another year.
We counted the months and tried to have "monkey" baby naturally instead of going for IUI or IVF by the following:-
1) Drank Chinese medicine as per recommended by family and relatives;
2) Went to Chinese doctor (sinseh) as per research from internet and recommended by one of my friend. As per her checking, my body was too "cold", hence she gave me herbs to boil to warm up my body.
3) Heard tip from friends (put a pillow under the hip after sex to allow the sperm to travel faster).
However we missed the year again. I was already quite disappointed and just kept praying in temple to give us a baby so as to complete our family.
However i got another tips from my friend which is to use Ovulation Test Kit. I used it for 2 months and ta....da....I was successful in my 2nd attempt.
1) Drank Chinese medicine as per recommended by family and relatives;
2) Went to Chinese doctor (sinseh) as per research from internet and recommended by one of my friend. As per her checking, my body was too "cold", hence she gave me herbs to boil to warm up my body.
3) Heard tip from friends (put a pillow under the hip after sex to allow the sperm to travel faster).
However we missed the year again. I was already quite disappointed and just kept praying in temple to give us a baby so as to complete our family.
However i got another tips from my friend which is to use Ovulation Test Kit. I used it for 2 months and ta....da....I was successful in my 2nd attempt.
Pressure from family, relatives and friends
My hubby and i are Indonesians and it is abnormal for the couple not to have child in their first wedding year. I felt pressurized during our first CNY as married couple as EVERYONE asked whether i was pregnant and when i am going to have one.
We decided not to go back to Indonesia for the following years hahaha just to avoid those questions.
When we give congratulations to our friends who just had baby, they ALWAYS asked when is our turn. It made me hate going for full month celebrations.
Sometimes it is not that the couple did not want to have one but it is just that we are not trusted with one yet. Hence please please please do not asked married couple when is their turn to have babies. They might look alright in front of you and give so many excuses but they were devastated inside. PLEASE BE MORE CONSIDERATE !!!.
Blessing can come anytime and at the least unexpected
In 2016, we decided to take things slowly and just enjoy our life by travelling more places whenever we can. We traveled to 3 places by mid year and booked our 4th one for October trip.
Blessing can come at the least unexpected. After our Penang trip in July 2016, i felt my body was tired and i guess was because of the walking that we did in the Penang and because my "monthly guest" is coming next day. I normally feel more tired about 1 week before my "monthly guest", hence i found it normal.
Blessing can come at the least unexpected. After our Penang trip in July 2016, i felt my body was tired and i guess was because of the walking that we did in the Penang and because my "monthly guest" is coming next day. I normally feel more tired about 1 week before my "monthly guest", hence i found it normal.
12 July came and the "monthly guest" was not here. I was not suspicious as my cycle is ranging from 30-33 days. 13 July came, 14 July came and my hubby was already excited. He started to rub my tummy and talked to my tummy as he was confident that i was pregnant then. 15 July came and we decided to buy test pack after work.
ON 16 July 2016 (Saturday), i decided to do pregnancy test in the morning and i saw TWO CLEAR LINES...Yipeeee I am pregnant. I came out from the bathroom and showed it to my hubby. He asked me what does it meant and once he knew, he hugged me tight hehehe...Finally!!!.
I was so happy that i informed my sisters via Whatsapp but told them to keep it a secret from my parents. My parents will be coming the next day (morning), so wanted to tell them face to face.
To be fair, we also kept it from my in-laws till the next day.
On Sunday morning, we skype with my in-laws and i showed my test kit. My Father In-Law did not know what was it hahaha...so my Mother In-Law told her.
I also showed to my parents my test kit hehe yipeee...so both families knew about the good news. FYI, it will be first grandchild for my in-law but third one for my parents.
I still keep it from my friends as people said not to announce before 3 months.
ON 16 July 2016 (Saturday), i decided to do pregnancy test in the morning and i saw TWO CLEAR LINES...Yipeeee I am pregnant. I came out from the bathroom and showed it to my hubby. He asked me what does it meant and once he knew, he hugged me tight hehehe...Finally!!!.
I was so happy that i informed my sisters via Whatsapp but told them to keep it a secret from my parents. My parents will be coming the next day (morning), so wanted to tell them face to face.
To be fair, we also kept it from my in-laws till the next day.
On Sunday morning, we skype with my in-laws and i showed my test kit. My Father In-Law did not know what was it hahaha...so my Mother In-Law told her.
I also showed to my parents my test kit hehe yipeee...so both families knew about the good news. FYI, it will be first grandchild for my in-law but third one for my parents.
I still keep it from my friends as people said not to announce before 3 months.
